When we move homes we take with us only what we can carry. A few important possessions, our experiences
Meet Frances, language activist
I first met Frances when I joined Multicultural Kid Blogs – a vibrant community of multicultural bloggers from around the world. In
Grad student, culture activist and founder of Discovering The World Through
Please tell us a little bit about yourself
Frances: I’m a Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian (Latina) married to an African-American man and we have one son. My husband and I met online 13 years ago. Funny anecdote about our relationship is that every time we talked he would say, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So I hope you know how to cook.”
Since we did the long-distance relationship for a while he actually had NO WAY of knowing if I could cook. So the first time I ever cooked for him was when he came to visit me in Puerto Rico. I was a nervous wreck! Needless to say, I guess I made it through his heart.
We’ve been married for 11 years. Ha! We currently live in South Carolina a Southern US state and travel frequently to Puerto Rico.
What do you do for the better part of the day?
Frances: Most of my weekdays are busy with my full-time job. Boring I know! However, the rest of the time is spent home with my
How does your kitchen differ from that of your parents’ in Puerto Rico?
Frances: My kitchen has lots of gadgets! I have 3 slow cookers, rice cookers, electric grill pan, etc. My mom doesn’t have appliances except for a blender and my grandmother used to cook over an open fire – which by the way made food taste the best!
What does a family meal look like in your home?
Frances: Love this question. We are a multicultural family so our meals are multicultural. The meals are a combination of Latin and Southern cuisine. Raising a child within two cultures means we will have a fusion of meals. For example, there are days when we have Puerto Rican rice with pigeon peas with brown gravy – those two do not go together. Ha! However, my very Southern American husband and child love gravy on everything. I’ll have my rice without it. Of course, no meal is complete without a side of meat and vegetables too.
Is there a particular dish that you make for your family that reminds you of your roots and takes you back to your childhood?
Frances: Yes, stewed chicken. Whenever I cook stewed chicken, the aroma fills my kitchen and our house. For a few minutes, I am transported into my Mami’s kitchen in Puerto Rico. I close my eyes, and breathe in the delicious aroma of chicken, with sofrito (a base of onions, peppers, garlic, culantro, cilantro, sweet red peppers, and spices). Growing up I loved going into her kitchen and lifting the lids off the pots to see what she was cooking. I have so many fond memories of Mami cooking in the kitchen for her family, for her children. I look at my son and hope that I will be the one “planting the memory seed” of sights, tastes, textures, and aromas of his Mommy’s cooking. I want him to remember his Mommy’s special dinner.
I truly love cooking for my family, for my husband, and for our son especially when it’s a recipe that I was brought up with. I also love to cook Southern meals and learned to eat collard greens.
How does your heritage impact your food
Frances: Our heritage is part of our family’s identity, and the food and memories that we create when we sit together as a family to eat. They are woven into our very existence.
What is most important to you right now?
What I hold dear to my heart and what is important to me is my family and the legacy we will leave behind for our son. A legacy of love, heritage, culture, and the many, many food memories for him to remember.